How to deal with toxic people
There are many reasons why people are toxic and negative. It may stem from a bad childhood or upbringing. They might not have felt love or caring in their home when they were growing up. It might be an enduring pattern of cynicism and negativity that has become engrained in their mind. It might also be a way of seeking attention. When someone always has to be "the worst" that is a sign that they are focused on their ego just the same as someone who always needs to be the best. They crave attention even if it is negative. They don't trust anyone and see the world as a bad evil place. Others are narcissists and fake love bomb you and shower you with compliments at first, only to later degrade you and have you walking on eggshells.
If you're anything like me, you are empathetic and like to help others. You somehow think you can fix or save negative people. It's time to realize that if they don't want to be helped you can't help them! They will only drag you down and bring you into their negative world. You are a bright shining star. You bring your sunshine to those who are connected to you and warm them with your smile.
The best way to deal with toxic people and narcissists is to cut them off completely if you can. If they are family members and you don't want to cut them off entirely then you need to set clear and firm boundaries. You will not tolerate any backbiting, negative talk or name calling. They need to elevate their behavior to be around you!
Keep doing what you do and don't let others get you down. Eventually your positive energy will repel those who have nothing to say but put down others and complain about the state of the world. Always look up and surround yourself with those people who have ideas and want to contribute positively to the world. If you see those qualities in a person who is negative but is trying, encourage them to take a path down the right road to a better, happier life!
How to change to a positive mindset
Are you always thinking negatively? Do you feel like your life has no purpose? That you can never win?
Negative thinking attracts negative energy. Some people love negative energy, they seem to live in that negative space because they got so used to it and they crave attention and affection. The trouble with living in that space is that nothing good ever comes from it.
Have you ever noticed that some people do nothing but complain and they seem to always have problems? That is because their vibrations are at a very low level. In order to start improving their life they need to focus on positive energy and thoughts that raises their vibrations.
We are surrounded by energy fields. A person's energy can actually be measured. People who are very negative or depressed live in very low energy ranges. In contrast, people who are positive and always looking on the bright side and focused on healing vibrate at high energy and they also ATTRACT good energy to themselves!
There are many ways to have a positive mindset. The first step is to set an intention that you will try to think positive thoughts and to actively chase away the negative thoughts. A glass is half full approach will really serve you best to set you on the path to achieve your goals and dreams!
Next, surround yourself with positive influences. Rather than watch negative feeds on social media check out some inspirational podcasts on YouTube. Jay Shetty's How to Think Like a Monk podcast is very popular and always uplifting. Tom Bilyeu's series Impact Theory gives you great ideas on how to achieve success in your life. Or listen to our podcast series, Sunshine for a Better World for tips on thinking positive and being happier in your life.
The other way to upgrade your mindset is to focus on helping others and doing good deeds. You will find that you are happier when helping others! In fact studies show that those who help others and give to others are much happier than if they receive something themselves. This can be done in small steps, you don't have to be rich to give back and to help others. In fact you don't need any money at all! A smile or a kind word is a great way to improve your mindset and increase your own happiness. Being good feels good!
As you start to take these small steps and change your mindset you will notice that positive energy comes to you and people will start to gravitate towards you with positive ideas and good energy. We wish you well in this new journey towards wellness and a happy life!
